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If a child cries for a razor, give it to him (Mtoto akilia wembe, mpe)

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Mtoto akilia wembe, mpe
Hello, lovers of language and wisdom!  Welcome back to your daily dose of proverbs. Today's proverb is "Mtoto akilia wembe, mpe" -- literally, "If a child cries for a razor blade, give it to them." To many parents that might sound, well… pretty harsh, right? But if you speak Swahili, you’ve probably heard this proverb. Do you agree with it? What does it mean to you? Share your thoughts.

If I hear I will forget, if I see I will remember, if I do I will understand.
-Teacher Amos

If a child wants a razor, then give it to him so that he understands why he was warned against playing with it.  This proverb illustrated the importance of giving people opportunities to learn from their own experience, even if they might get (slightly) hurt. Also, even if you refuse to give it to him, he might disobey you and play with it while you are away. This proverb can also be used as a warning to someone who ignores advice and insists on his own way.  While it is important to listen to advice and warnings from others, sometimes we need to see the consequences of our own actions to understand.

Natural Consequences

In the area of ​​parenting, this proverb teaches the principle of Natural Consequences.  A natural consequence is the result that naturally follows because of a person's behavior.  Unlike corporal punishment, penalties or demerits, natural consequences occur without the intervention of the parent or guardian.  For example, imagine if your son forgot his notebook at home.  What would you do? Some parents answer "I wouldn't do anything; he’ll have to explain to his teacher."  Others say "I would run to school to bring him the notebook, and then in the evening I would discipline him."  Which one is better?  Answer below...

Question for parents: If a child cries for a snake, will you give it to him?

 
OK, so we’ve agreed, if a child cries for a razor, we should give it to him.  But… imagine if the child is begging for something more dangerous– Would you agree? Jesus asked parents: "If your child asks for a fish, will you give him a snake?" What if the child asks for a  poisonous snake? Will you give it to them? 

A snake has real risks.
-Teacher Shila   

A razor can give them a small wound, but it is not as dangerous as a poisonous snake. What if they ask to quit their studies to play mobile games all day?  What if they ask to marry someone you don't trust at a young age? There are also important decisions that children are not ready to make for themselves. How do you, as a parent, decide or recognize when you should save and protect your child from regret, and when you should let the world teach them? Parents, tell us your opinion!

Apply this proverb in your life

Education: People remember what they experience and do, rather than what they are told.  Find opportunities to apply what you learn.
Parenting: Give the child freedom and opportunities to learn through experience.  Don't solve everything for him, and don't be afraid when he fails, if there is no danger or long-term effects, because failure is an opportunity for them to learn.
Listening: If you ignore warnings and advice, don't be surprised to see the predicted consequences occur.
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Sources
Velten, C. (1903). Sitten und Gebräuche der Suaheli, nebst einem Anhang über Rechtsgewohnheiten der Suaheli. Vandenhoeck & Ruprecht. - Page 349
Bible: Mathew 7:10, Luke 11:11

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Methali hii inahusiana na tabia ya kufikiria kwamba watu wengine wana vitu vizuri zaidi, hali nzuri zaidi nk... Kwa mfano kufikiri jirani yako ana majani mazuri kuliko wewe.

Chanzo cha methali hii ni "Sanaa ya Upendo" na Ovid, kitabu cha mashairi yaliyotungwa ili kutoa shauri kwa wanaume na wanawake kuhusu kutafuta na kudumisha mahusiano ya kimapenzi. Kitabu hiki kiliandikwa zaidi ya miaka 2000 iliyopita, takribani 2 KK:
Watu hutaka furaha mpya. Huwa tunaona kuwa watu wengine wana bahati zaidi kuliko sisi wenyewe. Mazao daima ni bora katika shamba la jirani yetu; ng'ombe wake hutoa maziwa zaidi. 
 - Ovid Ars Amatoria (Sanaa ya Upendo), Ukurasa wa 24

Kwa upande mmoja, methali hii inamaanisha, bora kushika kile ulicho nacho, na kupuuza kile ambacho wengine wanacho, hata kama inaonekana ni bora zaidi. Lakini pia kwa mtazamo mwengine, inamaanisha bora kutumia akili yako katika kuboresha hali yako mwenyewe (kama kumwagilia shamba lako) badala ya kufikiria sana ukweli kwamba shamba lako, au hali kwa ujumla, ni duni. Methali nyingine ni "Majani huonekana ya kijani zaidi pale ambapo yalipomwagiliwa maji." 

Methali zinazofanana kikanuni:
Kihindi: 
दूर के ढोल सुहावने लगते हैं
Ngoma za mbali husikika vizuri
Kichina: 
隔籬飯香 
Wali wa jirani hunukia vizuri
Kijapani:
隣の芝生は青く見える
Majani ya jirani huonekana kijana zaidi
Kurusi:
соседняя очередь всегда движется быстрее
Foleni nyingine husogea kwa kasi zaidi
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by Rose Mwanri 🇹🇿 
🏆 Proverb Essay Contest 
🥈 Second Place Winner
A proverb is a metaphorical expression used in a community. Words in proverbs have additional meanings and proverbs have two sides. The first side gives an idea and the second side completes the idea. Akiba haiozi (Savings do not decay) is one of the Swahili proverbs that is widely used in African communities and by Kiswahili speakers globally, with the aim of reminding people about the importance of saving.

The purpose of this proverb is to encourage us as members of the community to prepare well for today's life as well as tomorrow so we are ready to face the various challenges of life.

This proverb shows us that it is normal for a human being to experience various emergencies in everyday life. For example, an illness, accident, or even death. When you have the savings that you have set aside, it will help you when you are faced with a sudden challenge that you did not expect.

Another benefit of saving is improving life. First of all, I advise we all have a regular savings plan to be able to improve our lives in general. The more we save, the more that savings can help us improve our housing and infrastructure within our communities. A good example is parents whose savings enable them to pay for school fees, supplies and even other expenses that may arise at the same time.

This proverb also reminds us that the more we save, the more we grow our treasury. As with the proverb that says "Haba and haba hujaza kibaba" (little by little fills up the measure). If you analyze these proverbs, they have the same meaning, and you will find that it is a great reminder about building a good fate for our community, now and later. [These proverbs] encourage us to invest every penny we get. We grow our treasury, because what we save is there for us.

Take the opportunity to ask yourself, how many times have you faced challenges and your savings kept the ship afloat? How many issues have arisen without notice that you used your savings to put things right? I believe we should all save regardless of whether our income is big or small. For example, you can start saving little by little from what you earn and in time your savings will add up to be big.

Also, this proverb helps to develop knowledge for individuals and communities, especially where there has been a difference in savings from one generation to another. In the past we are told that people used to store their savings by digging underground, putting under the bed or even other places that they believed were safe. Today, people do not use traditional methods to save their savings. When it comes to money, there are banks with stable and safe systems for storing money. In terms of crop saving, there are also safe ways to store crops, even for a long time, without spoiling. In fact, savings do not decay.

In Swahili, we say “Akiba haizoi” ("Savings don't rot"), “Haba na haba hujaza kibaba” (“Little by little fills up the measure") meaning that the savings may seem small but the more they increase, the bigger they become. On the contrary, we are told “Chovya chovya humaliza buyu la asali” (“Dip [by] dip finishes the jar of honey”), “Bandu bandu humaliza gogo” (“Chop [by] chop finishes the log.”) If we take from our savings little by little without a good reason, the day will come when we’re infuriated to see all the savings are gone without anything meaningful getting done. Let's remember “mali bila daftari huisha bila habari” ("Wealth without a notebook disappears without notice"). Let's look at an example of this poem that stresses us about saving.

  Savings are truly a treasure, they never betray,
  For us it’s very important, they carries us through times
  When we really have nothing, they stand sincerely,
  Let's all save, savings is a savior.

Truly, it’s clear that we should take care of the good things and the resources we have by saving, so that we can save ourselves when we are faced with surprising challenges in our present and future lives.
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by Nankya Sauda 🇺🇬
🏆 Proverb Essay Contest 
🥇 First Place Winner

Still waters run deep

Ever taken time to wonder why the elderly will always live to be wiser than the young? Have you ever taken time to meditate on where your origin sprouts from? If not, it is high time you started looking for your origin because it is important for one to know their roots. 
 Over time, you take the burden to unveil the nature of famous geniuses and their personalities, you will come to realize that they are celebrated introverts.  It is important that one takes off some time their busy schedule and read about some of the top celebrated geniuses like Albert Einstein , the famous scientist from whom we derive one of the most educative quotes;
The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind.”

This highlights that time spent alone does not only provide one with space for self-reflection but also gives space to someone to use their mind creatively. Great talkers are great are great lawyers they say, and we have seen this happening during our daily routine where people make empty promises, make false declarations to please those around them but may never take time off to do something in a bid to realize their words. Because of that, many have ended up losing trust in these so called great talkers.
     On the other hand however, silent people have always blown our minds with their actions. Their moves are always calculated, their ambitions clear and their actions intentional. Romantic lovers in a relationship are always spicing up their relationships with new inventions to keep their love blooming. Those that have employed or stayed around introverts can justify that staying around these people has been one of the greatest achievements in their lives, for these have always worked  smarter, had critical thinking sessions in their alone time and eventually produced the best results and the biggest promotions.
     Literally, we can loosely define proverbs as traditional sayings that are particular to a particular country. They are short and wise sayings that usually offer advice as well as boost an idea in relation to the day to day life.  In fact, for one to have a clear and elaborate understanding of cultural norms and practices, it is wise that they always make a reference to proverbs since they can have an elaborate meaning beneath them.
     Historically, the proverb “STILL WATER RUNS DEEP” draws its origin from the ancient times in Latin. It became popular after Shakespeare used it in his play Henry vi in 1590. He said;
“Smooth runs the water where the brook is deep”

We realize that, in some instances the most dangerous people with the wickedest hearts have always calculated their moves and taken action at a time everyone least expects them to. That is why betrayals come from people we least expect them from. It is therefore crucial for someone to not only take what the eyes meet but also take caution especially from people who do not retaliate immediately after they have been provoked or confronted.
     Albert Einstein despite his introverted character, he his famously known for devising his theory of relativity which revolutionized our understanding of space, time, gravity and the universe.
     Conclusively, it is very important  not to draw conclusions just because looks are deceptive and there is always more to know and discover than the eyes can see.
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A penny that stays in your pocket can be used for another purpose. It could be used to buy something else, or you could lend or invest it to yield more money in the future. In economics, this principle is called "opportunity cost". When we spend money or time on one thing, we also lose the opportunity to use it for something else.

This proverb is usually attributed to Benjamin Franklin, but he did not originate it, nor did he use the exact phrase. Similar versions of the proverb appear in earlier sources. For example:
A penny spar'd is twice got.
- Outlandish Proverbs by George Herbert (1640) 

In Poor Richard's Almanac (1736), Benjamin Franklin quotes the proverb and explains it well:
Necessary Hints to Those That Would Be Rich
The use of money is all the advantage there is in having money. For six pounds a year [interest] you may have the use of one hundred pounds [a loan], provided you are a man of known prudence and honesty.
He that spends a groat [4 pence] a day idly spends idly above six pounds a year, which is the price for the use of one hundred pounds.
He that wastes idly a groat's [4  pence] worth of his time per day, one day with another, wastes the privilege of using one hundred pounds each day.
He that idly loses five shillings' worth of time loses five shillings, and might as prudently throw five shillings into the sea.
He that loses five shillings not only loses that sum, but all the advantage that might be made by turning it in dealing, which by the time that a young man becomes old will amount to a considerable sum of money.
Again, he that sells upon credit asks a price for what he sells equivalent to the principal and interest of his money for the time he is to be kept out of it, therefore, he that buys upon credit pays interest for what he buys, and he that pays ready money might let that money out to use, so that he that possesses anything he has bought pays interest for the use of it.
Yet in buying goods it is best to pay ready money, because he that sells upon credit expects to lose five per cent by bad debts; therefore he charges on all he sells upon credit an advance that shall make up that deficiency. Those who pay for what they buy upon credit pay their share of this advance. He that pays ready money escapes, or may escape, that charge.
"A penny saved is twopence clear;
A pin a day's a groat a year."

So, next time you think about spending money or time on something, ask yourself what the opportunity cost might be. If you didn't spend it, could you lend it to someone else? Could you pay off your existing debts? Could you invest in something that might bring a larger profit in the future?

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